A foster child will be accepted as a "real" member of a family because the parents will take them in as their own, nurture them, and be their providers. The families would support this adopted/foster child just as they support their own. Just because a child does not live with their biological family, their new family would love them as their own, and support this child through everything they go through.
Although best friends are different than foster children in many ways, my family considers my best friend, danielle, as part of our own family. She is always hanging around the house and the rules that apply to me and my siblings also apply to her. If anything were to happen to her my parents would worry just as much as they would worry about their own children. It's the same situation with my sister's two best friends, Mollie and Jackie. They are around us 24/7 and every time i walk into the kitchen there they are. They are apart of our family, not because they're always over but because we trust them with our hearts and love being in their company.
Being a family is more than having a blood relationship. There needs to be a strong bond between a group of people, there needs to be trust, and love between these people. So whether a child is adopted or biological, it doesn't matter, because they will be accepted just the same.
P.S. even though kevin buonadonna is not apart of our family he is accepted into our family as one of us because of all the heart worming, loving, cherish-able time he spends with us.
3 comments:
gab i completely agree with your view about foster children. although no one in my family is adopted either, my parents do treat my friends just like their own children. when they are in my house, they know to just go get food and things for themselves, and talk to my mom just normally. one of my family friends adopted a baby from china, and they already had a 9 year old daughter and a 1 year old daughter. now, the baby has lived with them for four years, and is just as much a family member as any of the other children. i think that even if a child is adopted, they have the same rights to the family and usually are treated the same way as any other child.
I totally agree. Blood really only matters in the biological (and sometimes legal) sense. But family is more than blood: it's about feelings of trust, love, acceptance, etc, and blood has only slight true connections to these emotions. I also think marriage is another analogy similar to your example of friends being like family--it's the same idea, being a sort of honorary member of a family without technically being part of it.
gabb,
i'd have to disagree, i think in situations involving adoption and foster children, theres always going to be a feeling of being out of place or different, especially when they have siblings that are bloodrelated to their adoptive parents.
as much as families are going to try to make the child feel comfortable and as much as the child does feel comfotable, there will always be times when a child doesn't feel apart of the family.
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